According to Pantalon, when you are working to motivate another individual, you must adhere to a few key principles:
- Affirm the individual's free choice, their autonomy to choose their own actions. This affirmation must be sincere.
- Do not tell the individual to change. Do not tell them why or how to change - have him or her generate personal reasons and ways to change.
- Have sincere care for the individual, have a true desire to help the individual move forward.
Pantalon recommends asking the individual 6 Questions, which are designed to help the individual determine their own motivation for doing a specific thing. After identifying a change that you believe the individual should make to improve their life, ask the following questions:
- Why might you change?
- How ready are you to change on a scale of 1 to 10?
- Why didn't you pick a lower number?
- Imagine you have changed. What would the positive outcomes be?
- Why are those outcomes important to you?
- Whats the next step, if any?
Pantalon also recommends using these questions to help motivate oneself into some kind of action or change in your own life. I have personally used these strategies on myself since reading the text and find that it truly does provide a surprising sense of internal motivation and excitement about making changes that seem important but that are difficult to start doing.
As a scholar, I prefer books that appear to be based on sound research and experience, and Pantalon references his own research, the research of others, and his experiences using the system he promotes. I found the book easy to follow and found the many examples very helpful in aiding me to understand how the 6 Questions can be applied.
Great, useful work.